Where Did all the Men Go?

Growing up it seems all anyone ever told me were the dont’s of dating. A clip from Mean Girls comes to mind here. After my previous relationship ended, I’m even more intentional about discerning what a man of God looks like. Seriously, where did all the men go?

I realized I was missing something super important!

There are many Christians in the world (2.2 billion are estimated). A Christian goes to church and Bible study, prays and even quotes a few popular Bible verses like Proverbs 3:5-6 or Joshua 24:15. You can find them at church, camp, school, or anywhere. But there is a difference between a christian boy and a man of God.

Ask yourself:

Does he make decisions based off the advice of his friends and family or solely with God as his confidant?

Does he use Jesus as a scapegoat (aka this happened because Jesus wanted it to) or does he own up to his choices?

Is he a follower or a leader?

Is he reading the Bible merely as a bed-time ritual or does he live out what he’s learned?

Does he challenge you in your faith or do his words fall short?

Read this article to see more of this comparison.

Hebrews 5:14-6:1 says “But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil. Therefore let us leave the elementary teachings about Christ and go on to maturity, not laying again the foundation of repentance from acts that lead to death, and of faith in God.” Maturity is found in men and women of God who are constantly diving deeper into God, who He is and what He says. They strive to live like Him. It sets them apart from Christians. This article is an amazing resource.

A man of God will take responsibility, be entirely honest, challenge you in your faith, stand by his decisions, lead you closer to Christ and will not place you in questionable situations. He is a leader and will have Godly opinions that are always in your best interest. He will love God more than you or anyone, even his family. He will act like Christ and point you back to Him. Want more specific information on what a man of God is? This awesome article uses specific scriptures for the characteristics of a man of God.

Ephesians 4:17-32 tells us men and women of God speak truthfully, are honest, forgive, are kind and compassionate, have a discerning heart and imitate Christ.

This doesn’t mean we are perfect. You have a past and things you can’t take back, but use those moments to propel you forward. You’re human, but don’t use that as an excuse. Never make that mistake again and invite Jesus to be with you on your next date, meeting, and day. When you literally ask Jesus to be with you each day, you become more conscientious of what it means to live like Christ.

Jefferson (a spoken Word artist) and Alyssa Bethke speak about this “christian boy and man of God” idea and give concrete advice.

Do you really trust God to write your story? Don’t miss the present. God wants to heal you and work with you now to prepare you for what’s next. Don’t mope in the past because let’s admit it, you have things that need fixing.

Unlike the world we live in, let’s cast off this idea that having a spouse, kids and a house give you value and completeness. Don’t put limits on yourself and all that God has intended for you. Right now and always, God is all you need. He will walk with you every step of the way and unlike past relationships, his promises are good. He will never leave you. Rest in that.

What is God teaching you right now?

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28



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